The one with the climax

In our work, we repeatedly encounter women who have difficulty reaching orgasm. The reasons for this are as varied as each woman herself—often deeply intertwined with societal expectations, personal experiences, conditioning, or their relationship with their own bodies. We frequently encounter the fear among those affected that they are not „right“—combined with the feeling that something is wrong with them, that they are lacking something, or that they are incomplete.

But that’s not true. You’re not broken. There’s nothing wrong with you. And at the same time, you don’t have to stay where you are right now. That’s exactly where we come in: with loving support, honest guidance, and a space where you can rediscover yourself at your own pace.

Our experience shows that healing for women begins when they stop judging themselves by male or societal standards. A nurturing sexuality grows out of a deep connection to yourself—when you ground your power within yourself, trust your intuition, discover your sensuality as a life force, and experience your body as an ally.

To understand why this process takes time for many women, it’s worth taking a look at the dynamics of female arousal. From a sexological perspective, it often differs significantly from male arousal. While male arousal is often triggered more spontaneously and quickly, female arousal usually arises from a combination of safety, relationship, time, context, and experience. Many women have never had the opportunity or the knowledge to truly understand or explore their own arousal dynamics—because they have not been supported in this, either socially or physically.

That’s exactly why this workshop isn’t just about knowledge. It’s about new experiences. About feeling rather than just functioning. About repetition, embodiment, and the slow rediscovery of a language your body may have always spoken. It’s a journey back to yourself. Back to your body, which is so much more than what you see or what’s expected of it. And perhaps along the way, you’ll realize that your body has never worked against you, but has always tried to protect you.

The best part? It's never too late to embark on this journey. You can feel, love, and celebrate yourself. Because you're worth it. Because you're perfect—just the way you are.

This workshop is designed for all women who experience difficulties reaching orgasm—whether they never or rarely have an orgasm, feel very little sensation, feel pressure to perform, or have the feeling that „something is missing.“ In a safe and supportive space, we’ll explore together ways to reconnect with your desire, your body’s wisdom, and the depth of your orgasms.

„Your own body is not a puzzle to be solved - but a space to be discovered.“ - Iva Samina

What if an orgasm weren't the goal?

As soon as the orgasm becomes the goal, it often creates pressure: Am I turned on enough? Why can't I come? Am I doing something wrong? When is it finally going to happen? This pressure to perform often takes us out of our bodies and into a state of constant self-observation.

What if, instead, it’s about getting to know your own desire? How does arousal feel in your body? How does it change? How can you deepen it, play with it, and become more and more attuned to it?

Then orgasm is no longer something you have to achieve or perform, but something you’re allowed to move toward—as you learn to feel more and more at home in your body. This is exactly where it begins The one with the climax.

Aims of the training

• Rediscovering YOUR OWN PLEASURE—free from expectations and the pressure to perform
• Learning to Read Your Body and Unlocking a Deep ORGASMIC Intelligence
• Leaving Shame and Old Stories Behind
• Discover SENSUALITY as a source of strength, vitality, and joy in life
• Identifying Factors That Hinder and Facilitate Progress
• Understanding the Female Anatomy in Depth
• Build a SOLID FOUNDATION OF SEXUAL KNOWLEDGE—to recognize what you really want, need, and deserve
• Experiencing Your Body as an Ally and Guide
• Live a sexuality that suits you—FREE, VIBRANT, and CONNECTED

Voices from the last group

• …how crazy that I first needed permission from someone else to trust my own “no.”.
• „…that desire isn’t something I have to achieve, but something that’s allowed to arise.”
• “…that I no longer want to see my sexuality as a problem that needs to be solved. It can be lighthearted. It can be a source of joy.”
• „…that I don’t have to “function’ in order to experience sexuality as beautiful and fulfilling.”
• “…the experience of how powerful it can be when women support one another instead of comparing themselves to one another.”
• „…how valuable it is to learn so much about my own body, to be able to talk openly about sex, and to find the words to express my desires.“
• „…that there’s no quick fix. I understand now why you set aside so much time. Because learning takes time, and the body needs time. So much changes.“

Annual Overview: Start Date: October 29, 2026

Monthly workshops every Thursday from 6:30–8:30/9:00 p.m. 

• 29.10. Welcome to your journey & all about the big O
• 19.11. Anatomy: The Map of Female Pleasure
• 17.12. Exploring Sexual Scripts
• 14.01. The Pelvic Floor—The Foundation of Your Pleasure
• 11.02. Love Your Boobies – Breasts as a Gateway to a Deeper Dimension of Pleasure
• 11.03. The Six Pillars of Fulfilled Pleasure
• 01.04. Breath, Voice, Movement: The Key to Pleasure
• 29.04. Letting Go of Old Patterns: From Shame to Freedom
• 27.05. Pelvic Swing – The Free Pelvis
• 17.06. Harvest & Integration

Our methods

• In-depth knowledge gained from many years of practical experience in sexological bodywork, sex coaching, and sex therapy
• Sexual Developmental Process, Sexual Biography, and Sexual Script
• Theoretical input & education about anatomy, pleasure and conditioning
• Body and breathing exercises to activate, ground and open up
• Wheel of Consent
• Guided self-touch journeys (optional, in a safe environment)
• Reflection questions & journaling for integration on a mental and emotional level
• Group Discussion
• A one-on-one call with Iva to reflect on and support your sexual development journey
• Participation in the retreat is optional: Reclaim Your Sexual Power. Please note: the price of the retreat is not included.

This trip is for you

• if you have trouble reaching orgasm or your sexual desire is blocked
• You're not in the mood for performance pressure and "perfect orgasm stories"
• You stop „achieving“ pleasure and start experiencing it
• You finally want to reconcile with your body, without stress and pressure to perform
• You are looking for a safe space in which you can discover yourself without judgment

Price

• 11 installments of € 77 each (total € 847)
• One-off payment: €730 (saving you €117!)

All Zoom calls with Iva are recorded. If you’re ever unable to join live, you’ll have the option to watch the recording for 2 weeks and catch up on the call at your own pace. If you have any questions or if certain points aren’t entirely clear to you, feel free to reach out anytime. If it helps, we can also easily set up a short, no-obligation 10-minute call. That way, you can ask anything directly, and we can clarify the points that are important to you together, without any hassle.

9 months that can change everything: For your desire. For your depth. For your body.

Together, we challenge old notions of how female sexuality is supposed to „work“—such as the assumption that penetration is what “real” sex is, or that it’s the ultimate measure of pleasure and fulfillment. Yet the central role of the clitoris is still often underestimated or ignored altogether. But knowledge alone changes little. Only when knowledge is combined with personal experience—through sensation, breathing, movement, touch, and mindful body awareness—can real change occur. This creates the opportunity to get to know your own body anew and to experience sexuality beyond expectations and the pressure to perform. In the process, many women discover something crucial: it is not their bodies that are the problem. Often, it is rather the ideas, expectations, and circumstances under which they have learned to experience sexuality.

Testimonials from participants:

“Working with Iva on “Das mit dem Höhepunkt” has permanently changed my relationship with my own body. I’ve learned to be much more attuned to what feels good, where my boundaries lie, and what I actually want. Iva’s approach is both very clear and incredibly sensitive. At no point did I feel judged or pressured. On the contrary: I was allowed to be curious, experiment, ask questions, and find my very own path.” M.

“„The Thing About Orgasms“ wasn’t a quick guide for me, and certainly not a program along the lines of „do these exercises and it’ll work.“ It was a nine-month journey during which I was able to get to know my body, my desire, and my own sexuality in a whole new way. Iva creates a space where you feel safe and supported from the very first moment. With her warm, mindful manner, her extensive knowledge, and her powerful tools, she makes it possible to go really deep. Feelings like shame, insecurity, anger, sadness, or fear are all allowed to be there. Nothing has to be hidden or pushed aside. What I found particularly valuable was the time. Nine months allowed me not only to understand things, but to actually experience them and anchor them in my body. I was able to try things out again and again, observe, ask questions, take breaks, and return to myself. There was no pressure to achieve anything. And that’s exactly why so much has changed. I’ve learned to perceive my body differently, to better understand my arousal, and to trust my own desire much more. Above all, I’ve stopped constantly wondering if there’s something wrong with me. The training has opened up a new way for me to approach not only my ability to orgasm, but my entire sexuality. But it’s also clear that I only achieved this because I really stuck with it. It was worth it! Thank you, dear Iva, for these nine months, for your clarity, your patience, and for creating a space where so much was made possible.” L.

“I found the combination of in-depth knowledge and physical experience particularly valuable. It doesn’t just stay as intellectual understanding—much of it actually sinks into the body. I’m grateful for this experience and would recommend working with Iva to any woman who wants to get to know herself, her desire, and her sensuality in a new and deeper way.” I.